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Posted: Thursday, October 25, 2012 11:57 AM

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Please read my story...Guy In Dead End Relationship.....

I hope that whoever is reading this is still reading regardless of there being no picture. I am in a dead end relationship looking to get out and I can't risk the person I am trying to distance myself from seeing this ad with my picture. I know that this might sound like a different type of ad that people are used to seeing here. They are used to seeing ads for people looking just to be sex friends, hook ups and sleazy things of that nature. I just want to assure that I am seeking nothing of that sort. Here begins my story....

I have been dating the same woman for nearly 6 years now and the more the days go by, I realize how incompatible we are. At this point we should be married since we are engaged. However, I keep lagging and buying more time. I know she sees it as laziness but it can't be that. I am not by any definition lazy. I have a job and most often I work on my days off. I think what my issue here is that I don't feel gung ho or enthusiastic if you will to make that major step with her. My mind keeps telling me that she isn't the one you were meant to do this stuff with. My mind is telling me to hold off, but how long is what I don't know. I feel like my mind is saying that I shouldn't waste tings on this woman because another one wil come along who deserves the things that the one I am with now. However, I know that there will be resentment with the next woman I meet if word gets out that I am unable to give her great things because the last one gobbled them all up, and that person didn't deserve them. Who wouldn't be resentful, I know I would.

However, I am afraid of letting her go because I know that I promised her so much and that will be the most difficult promise to keep. On the other hand, I have just been feeding her lies and if you truly love someone you should set them free. I am not looking for people to show pity, sorrow, or sympathy for me. I am just looking to tell my own experience. Hopefully, there is someone out there ho has been in this situation. I am not looking for that either, but simply someone who understands my situation. I am making a promise right here and now that any person I get involved with, the minute it turns romantic, I will let the girl I am with go. I know that things start out as friends first. That is the case with the girl I am currently with. I refuse to cheat on her or anyone so I will let someone go before starting something new. I am sure being cheated on isn't fun, and I would wish it upon my worst enemy. I hope that whoever finished this wants to talk more. I am not hung up on looks, age, race, or body.

Thanks

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